In the seventh grade, I would complain about my outer and inner flaws constantly.  I had complained so much that my mom had scheduled me my first therapy appointment.  My mom had explained to my therapist that I was very insecure and unhappy with my appearance and personality.  Before I left my session, my therapist had me create a list of ten things I liked about myself.  Though I thought it would be silly and unhelpful in the grand scheme of things, it was quite the contrary.  As I listed the things I liked about myself such as my eye color, my freckles, my writing abilities, my kind nature, etc. , the thought of my flaws and weak points became less visible to me.

This experience has lead me to believe that complimenting yourself is an important part of the self-acceptance process.  Though we may have some imperfections in the way we act or appear, we have to keep in mind the many strengths, talents, and features that make us who we are.  Just because you have a big nose or a crooked smile doesn’t mean you can’t have beautiful eyes or a gorgeous complexion.  You are still beautiful.  Maybe you don’t do so well with math or science but you rock at writing essays in English class.  It is impossible to achieve perfection but making the most of what you have can be achieved.

When you have some time to yourself, get a piece of paper and a pencil and write or type in a word document ten things you like about yourself.  When you’re done decorate the list and hang it on your wall to remind yourself how great you are.  Remember to compliment yourself at least once a day.